Types of Love
In our society, love has been given different names. Eros, Storge, Pragma, Agape, Ludus, and Mania are the six types of love that are known by the intensity and intent of how we love someone.
Eros―the passionate love.
Perhaps, this is the most evident form of love all of us have experienced it at some point or the other. As the name suggests, it is a type of love in which desire, physical attraction, physical appearance, and romance are given top priority. Eros is the name of the Greek God of love. As a noun, it means ‘sexual love or desire’. In this type, the levels of passion and physical intimacy are high. People who love this way are very charged up, emotional, and gung-ho about their relationship initially … but as time passes, the intensity reduces.
Pronounced as Stor-gay, this form talks about the familial love we experience in our society. The love we feel for our parents and siblings is what constitutes storge. It is beautiful to experience this bonding; lucky are the people who have families. When extended to love between couples, storge focuses on building a compassionate, caring, and emotional bonding.
Pragma―the need-based love.
Ever met people who’re practical and completely rational in their relationships? Pragma focuses more on needs and wants―educational qualifications, professions, income, social status, common hobbies, parental possessions, material belongings, etc. Partners measure their satisfaction in the relationship as per convenience. The day their heart takes over … well, it’s a mistake of a lifetime.
Agape―the divine love.
Agape (pronounced as A-GAH-pey) in Greek, is considered to be the purest form of love. It promotes brotherly affection and love for each other. In fact, it is exactly what all religions have been trying to teach us. It is basically love for all around us; to possess a compassionate heart. A mention of this love in the Bible goes like this: If a person has material resources and the love (agape) of God within him, his heart will take care of his brother who is in need (1 John 3:17).
People who have a tendency of giving up on relationships as soon as the initial euphoria is over, are said to be in a Ludus form of love. A ludus lover does not work toward a long-term commitment, and senses a form of thrill only in the initial days of the relationship.
Mania―the obsessive love.
As the name suggests, this is the worst form of love. It is full of extreme reactions like insecurity, jealousy, obsession, compulsion, and unrealistic demands. While a partner may feel important initially―given that his/her partner is so dedicated to him/her―the truth is far from different. Breaking away from such a relationship is equally difficult; do it NOW.