Tips on Dating a Workaholic Man
Is Your Man REALLY a Workaholic?
Being dedicated to work, and being a workaholic are two different things, and it is important you understand the difference between the two. Workaholics feel the compulsive need to keep working at all times. They just cannot stop working, or thinking, worrying, talking, discussing work! Many a time this compulsive need to keep working is associated with some personality complex or a psychological condition – completely losing himself in work could be a workaholics way of dealing with (or rather avoiding to deal with) some serious problems or issues in his life. If that is the case, you – as his companion – can try to get him help. However, if there is no such situation, then you are simply in love with a man who is more dedicated to his work than you can be okay with!
Dating a Workaholic Man
First and foremost – it’s not easy. Even if you are not the kind of girl who wants her partners attention 24×7, dating a workaholic is really not easy. It requires patience… and a LOT of it. But even with patience, you are sometimes at a loss of what exactly it is you should DO to make it work! Patience is going to help you deal with what and how YOU feel about the whole relationship; but how exactly is the relationship going to turn out to be? How is it going to proceed? Here are a few things you can do to make dating a workaholic easy.
Understand and Make Understand
It is one thing to THINK your guy is workaholic and another to know it for a fact and understand what it means. The first thing you should do is try to understand the cause behind your guy being workaholic; once you do, you can tackle the problem better. By tackle I do not mean you be his mother and take charge of his job and his life. Sometimes men get so absorbed in their work, they do not realize it is affecting their relationship. Women being more sensitive and emotional, can pick up these signs easily though. Try to make your guy see what is happening. Talk to him, but not like a counselor or a teacher – talk to him like an equal. Do not be authoritative; do not sound whiny either. But do not sound too meek. Make your point without making a noise.
Voice Your Concern
Try to educate your guy about how being a workaholic is bad for you, him, and the two of you together. Let the talk come out of genuine concern rather than out of dissatisfaction. Let it not sound like you are trying to point out his faults to him. Do NOT, under any circumstance give him the guilt of not being able to give you time. Lend him an honest and unbiased ear. If he seems like he wants to talk to you about him, hear him out. If he seems to be holding his thoughts back, try to get him to come forth with them.
Chalk It Out!
Try to get things organized. Decide a time in the week when you would both be completely there for each other. Set a few simple rules, like no attending work-related calls. And do not just impose the rules on your man, follow them yourselves too! Make time to do things together, like going to the movies, throwing a party, making a day-trip. Take up a hobby together. Initially, it may feel too structured a relationship, but maybe spending more time together, or spending time together on a regular basis will re-invoke in your guy the feelings that have gone dormant and make him see what all he had been missing!
Spice It Up!
Many a time all it needs to grab your guy’s attention is a little bit of spice! When was the last time you made a night to remember? When was the last time your guy called you just to hear your voice? When was the last time you saw that deep longing for you in his eyes? Sometimes you have to remind your guy about what you two have been together, what you two are together, and what millions of things you can be together! There are many things you can do to spice up your relationship. Surprise your man – and leave him begging for more!